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Freitag, 30. Juni 2017

Inhaltslos quatschen .....

Verrückt, verrückt, verrückt ......
Bin so lange im Internet unterwegs, dass ich es manche Sachen gar nicht mehr sehen kann und will. 
Ich bekam auf Facebook von einen weiblichen Kontakt einen Link zu einen App. 
"Was ist das? Ich öffne Link nicht einfach so. Wenn es um Dating geht, interessiert mich nicht mehr."
"Nein, es geht um quatschen."
"Das interessiert mich auch nicht mehr. Quatschen on-line bringt mir nichts. Zeitverschwendung, Isolierung."
Ich glaube, auf Facebook erscheint jeden Tag mindestens eine Singles-Gruppe. Unter verschiedensten Namen:
- mit Katze
- mit Hund
- mit und ohne Hund und Katze
- für Singles, die es ernst meinen
- für Singles, die sich "ketten" lassen .... jeder versteht, was er/sie kann davon :-)
- Bergsüchtige Singles
- Ironman Singles
- Berglauf Singles
- mit Kinder
- über 30
- über 40
- über 50 usw usw usw 

Ich habe viele, viele Gruppen versucht, über ein Jahr. Im Moment bin ich nur in die Bergsüchtige Singles, war auch 3 Tage unterwegs mit dieser Gruppe, alles tip top.

Sonst, bin ich echt in diese Quatscherei und Fragerei nicht mehr interessiert. Aber wenn ich sehe, wieviele Mitglieder solche Gruppen haben (3.000, 6.000 usw.) und wenn ich sehe wieviele Apps auf diese Thema auftauchen, dazu die "Quatschen"-Apps ..... also, die Menschen haben keine Zeit für reales Leben, für reale Treffen, für Auge-in-Auge schauen, für einfach spontan im realen Leben ins Gespräch kommen - das kann man allerdings überall machen, in einer Bücherei, in einem Geschäft, in einem Zug, sogar auf dem Fahrrad oder beim Laufen .... - aber immer mehr Verzweifelte am Horizont, mit unbekannten, ungesehenen, bilderlosen Profile sich im Internet zu unterhalten, im totale Anonimität und zwischen die schönsten Lügen und Falschgeschichten .....

Wie krank ist das wohl?!?!

Bin so oft mit dem Zug gefahren ..... alle mit den Augen auf ihren kleineren oder größeren Monitore.
In der Akademie, jetzt am Abschluss-Wochenende: im Warteraum, von 3 Leute zwei waren mit dem Handy beschäftigt, ins Internet surfen, die anderen waren zumindest draussen, rauchen oder ein Bier trinken, plaudern, feiern usw.

Kalt, kalt, kalt ..... ich werd's bald allergisch, echt.

Mittwoch, 14. Juni 2017

We change, take it or leave it!

I remember about many discussions in the past when it was repetitively said: "we do not change, our essence stay for ever! We do not change behaviours, we do not change our beliefs or the manner we act / react! So never try to change someone, it cannot be done!"
I never agreed with that, but I also never could explain to others that yes, we definetly change during the journey of our life!
There are more than 20 years since those discussions and now I believe I understand and I can say more about changing.
20 years I was in a sort of manner the biggest enemy of myself and the most of the people are the enemy of themselves.
And I never knew it because in my beliefs, all what I did it was perfectly right. I always was sure that my way, my act, my reaction, my indications, my beliefs are the right ones. I criticized all and everything because due to my beliefs everything and all should be perfect. I really did believe in PERFECTION and BEING PERFECT and I mean not only myself, but all others and the world can and should be perfect (without really knowing what "perfect" does it means, but I was young and stupid, let's say it so now :-)). I was sure, being pro-active and criticizying can change the others, can change the world. Later in my life I got it that world (not people, but world!) changed me but I still was far away to understand the point, the Real Point!

Now I know that I did anything wrong so far I was sure I am right. Now I better understand the relativity of wrong and right. Now I understand .... how wrong I actually was and how much harm I did to myself. 
On our IM Coaches Group from all over the world two guys had the initiative to work for a survey which could help us all having a great support - a much better one - from IMU. Because we pay a yearly fee to be members there and the services we get are almost not existent and everyone is complaining over the last 12-14 months.
So, these two guys did a survey, from 260 members only about 60 responded and at the end we all got a .pdf-document of almost 30 pages with the results.
And then it started to happen ....
Most of us are very happy about the initiative and have thanked for the work the two guys did. 
And it suddenly came a comment like: "It seems someone like to play with the forms and colors without thinking to the readers so that it is so difficult to read the document". No "thanks" at all, not a suggestion or so, just a criticism. I've read the document and I found it amazing through the amount of work enclosed there, so that I just ignored the small difficulties.

At that moment I had a strong flash-back ..... I saw myself during the 20 years of criticism and frustration and being unsatisfied and unhappy all the time, not taking the responsability over what happens into my life, refusing to open for changes and so on .... (it is much more to explain here, it is not about refusing, it is about timing, being prepared for such of processes etc. I was not able to open is the right formulation I think).

I wrote a comment to that comment: "Somehow when somebody has an initiative and does something which helps others too and does the entire work, at the end it always come a new one to criticise, right?"
Wow! I thought: "And now Anca, you are in troubles. Again. You are back .... WTF?!"
I've read the guy's comment again and it disturbed me again, it felt as totally unfair and not constructive at all for our community. Then I've read my comment to that comment wishing to be a positive approach somehow. My desire was that the negative comment of the guy does dissapear from there.
So ..... and the guy who criticized contacted me on private message and said: "Thank you Anca for letting me know how wrong I am!"
And he really deleted his comment, how awsome is that?!
It is not about I am happy with that, it is about I realized how change in our essence is possible. I was happy to see the reaction of the guy and his openess to think again about the impact of his words and evaluation. A great guy! In my past years I was not so great, because I was unable to understand the impacts ....
Now, when I know about the energies flow and the connections all over the places, now when I know that I have the life I build and WE have the world WE BUILD through our way of thinking, reacting, speaking/talking ..... now I feel the sense of this life and the mechanisms of it.

No, we cannot change somebody just because WE WANT. The Change has to come from the inside of that person. There is no other way.

Somebody you love had an accident. You write down on a group: "Somebody most of us know and love had an accident. Do not ask who is it. Just pray for him, send him the good energies of your thoughts."
A very beautiful initiative. But if I don't know who is the Receiver of my positive energies which I can create especially for him/her, my positive thoughts are going to float all over the places and can or cannot reach the actuall Receiver.
So I asked about who that person is.
His subconscious is probably working for him to save him, to get better, to be healthy again - this is his only chance. 
His subconscious will meet his conscious at a particular moment and that will meet my (our) created and sent energies for him and then the Synergy is taking place for a real proces of healing and recovery. And sometimes is happening almost instantly, believe it or not, it is your choice to believe it or not!

What I wanted to say also by this example:
We mostly have positive, good intentions. But we often miss some details about giving sense of the whole process. Sometimes it's about logic, mostly is about ignorance. And then, if things does not work out in the manner we wanted, we tend to say others are guilty.
It is mostly about taking the responsability of what we think, say, transmit, ask for, understand or not understand.

We never are guilty of anything (Guilt is a very negative Emotion inducted often by church, by others. Guilt is poison in our life, in our world, it destroys a lot), we are just ignorants about so many things because we are not educated to understand principle of life in the manner they really work out for us. And because we still are working to discover and to understand about the whole Potential of the World, of the Universe and of Us as human beings. 
Just think about the fact sickness is the result of your thoughts and health is also the result of your daily life approach. 
Just understand that anything is possible and due to this principle there are no such things as accidental. Every event in our life was attracted by us! All we have or we do not have, all we get, all we miss - it is the mirror of our thoughts.

We are today what we thought yesterday and will be tomorrow what we are thinking today. So simple is that!  

About myself being what I became:
I had to change country, to change life, to die for about 18 months and to be reborn for learning and taking life from the start in a way!
You can avoid such of long processes if you just pay attention, if you open to "irational" world, if you ask questions and stay receptive to replies and signs around you. 
Take my advice and try to avoid "that huge crisis" in your life which will bring you out of life and out of yourself. Avoid it, because not all of us getting in the hole are then able to get out to the light again. The borders are terrible thin ..... 

Dienstag, 13. Juni 2017

Love, Hate or Indifference

We all experience along the Life Journey's some burn-out of our mind and souls, but most of us ignore the signals and cannot accept the real state of themselves.
We are not educated, we are not used to listen to ourselves. We even do not know we exists in our three dimensions - Soul, Mind, Body - which make us the probably most powerful Being on Earth! 
Thinking back to my last personal story - Von Burn-Out to Ironman Coaching - and the probably the deepest life crisis I experienced in the last 40+ years I now can evaluate how strong The Indifference impacts us. 
When we are confronted with a situation which negatively impact our life, our soul, mind and body we become extremly vulnerable and that is the moment when we need support from family, friends. 
But somehow, exactly in these situations we are confronted with a new situation we cannot manage: friends, sometimes even family members keep distance of us. No time, no mood, no interest .... 
The are friendly, but ..... indifferent. This is one of the states we cannot manage. We could manage Hate, but Indifference is somehow more painful because it is not definible. And it hurts no matter how strong you mentally actually are!

I'm WATCHing YOU!! :-)